“The question is not what you look at, but what you see.”Henry David Thoreau
Everything is About “Perspective”
If you want to create a better life for yourself, All you have to do is Change your Point of View. To do this you need to become more optimistic.
Imagine that you are driving down a highway, and cars are coming towards you in the opposite direction, you will see things in a certain way. At the same time, the driver coming towards you will have their own perspective.
Your perspective isn’t just the facts you cars coming towards each other it’s also how we interpret everything. That interpretation is based on your beliefs and life experiences something unique to you. how you see the world is based totally on your perspective and yours alone. Now there may be commonalities with other people, especially in the same society. There always are. Yet, you will still have your unique point of view.
The way we see things or how you experience the world is tempered by your life experiences, especially what happened to you when you were young. As a result, you will judge everything you see and do through the lenses of who you are or who you have become. This is mostly from your unique life experiences, but there is a growing science that we are becoming aware of that we can also inherit experiences from our forefathers.
How your Childhood Experiences Affect Your Perspective
Some people come out of their childhood only seeing the best in the world-space the stars. For others, a search for problems or issues or what’s wrong or what’s not working. As I wrote in other articles on viralgrey.com, a big problem for all of us is that we get taught what to think, not how they think.
As a result, you may not understand that a lot of this is simply a choice. If how you see the world isn’t working this time to change how you see the world. Trust me, this is an awful lot easier than hoping the world’s going to change to fit your model.
To change your perspective just takes new habits. It requires a change in focus. It requires setting new goals and looking for anything that stops you from achieving them. Our perspective is everything and that’s all it is- our perspective!
The Power of “CHOICE”
Every day you are always filled with choices. Many people don’t realize that they even have a choice and just think the way things are is the way things are. In reality, even if you’re the worst pessimist in the world you don’t have to remain that way!
Unconsciously you may have opted to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimist’s route and take on a way less challenging and more fulfilling life. And you can change your mind and choose something different-to live life differently, from a different perspective
The Continuum of Pessimism versus Optimism
I’m sure you have a number of friends, acquaintances and/or relatives. Across the collection of our contacts, they will represent a wide range of perspectives across the pessimism/optimism spectrum. I’m sure you have both optimistic and pessimistic friends.
- Which one is more fun to be with?
- Which ones can you be yourself around?
- Which ones do you have to tiptoe around?
- Which ones are more successful?
- Which ones are living life to the max and joy in life\
- Which ones can overcome hardships faster?
- What ones let things go easier?
Where are you on this scale?
Where do you see yourself on this scale of pessimism or optimism currently?
Do you understand it’s a choice or at least it can be!. If you’re a pessimist, you don’t have to stay that way. Yes, I realize changing your perspective will take some work but won’t it be worth it? It’s just a condition responsible perspective and you can change your perspective.
Why not take the optimist point of view?
There are so many benefits for taking the optimistic point of view:
For example, optimism has been linked to:
- better health,
- more happiness,
- less depression
- more positive moods
- better morale
- better performance in school, on the job
- more friends
- better relationships
- less depression
Here’s a sad fact, In recent years, the mean age for the onset of these two afflictions has gone down from 30 to 15, (likely caused by the introduction and adaptation of technology or too much of it.) It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teenager’s disorder’ as well.
Continuing Optimist versus Pessimists
Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:
Optimists expect the best versus pessimists who base tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault.
Additionally, optimists tend to focus on and plan for the ‘problem’ at hand. They use ‘positive reinterpretation.’ In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situations, they simply perceive it as a challenge and buckle down and try harder.
They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”
Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles. The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune—it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case.
People respond positively to optimists
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with.
Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavourably.
In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and sought for advice.
When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher versus the pessimist to takes often blame somebody else for the problems
Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.
They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.
Again if you need to hear this Optimists are healthier and live longer. Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body’s ability to fight disease.
Here’s another great reason for becoming more optimistic: Optimists age well (better). They are much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age and beyond. They get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts. You see, all of the negative thoughts hurt everyone, but mostly the person thinking them.
So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.
Why not look forward to success in all your endeavours? Why not be or become more resilient?
Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-coloured glasses and see life on the bright side?
A simple trick on starting the process of changing this is when you catch yourself having a negative thought say to yourself “Cancel, Cancel,).
Say this simple phrase a couple of times until the sensation of feeling goes away and you’ll slowly rewire your response.\
Here are a couple of good books on learning to become an optimist: (if you push on the link, it will take you to the book on Amazon)
Remember to always focus only on what you want to create.
At any point in the slide back again, just use “Cancel, Cancel” or “Cancel, Clear” and focus on what you want.